What to Expect When Breaking Generational Curses 

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Breaking the Cycle of Trauma

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You’ve done it — you’ve woken up to your toxic tendencies and their roots, and your eyes are open to your need for healing and freedom. 

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You see the cycle — you know the trend — you’re ready to shut down the pattern.

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But jeez — where the heck do you even start??

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First step — embrace the suck.

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It’s going to get worse before it gets better.

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The reality is, you’re slaying dragons baby.

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And dragons do not go down easy.

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The witch has her monkeys.

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The beast will spit its fire.

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The most important thing for you to get cozy with now is this — 

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You have a rough journey ahead.

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But if you don’t climb the mountain, you can’t see the view.

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“The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.”

― Joseph Campbell

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Without Our Dragons Life Would Have No Color

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Second step — embrace with gratitude.

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You know it fully in your depths — you do not want to live a life of mediocrity.

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Stagnation.

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Coagulation. 

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A dull life.

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So then let’s all just be honest here — the dragons add a thrilling turn to the story.

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Yes, killing that beast is hard.

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BRUTAL.

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But you can’t feel the triumph until the dragon’s been slain

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And the village gets their peace restored to them.

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I fell prey to this myself.

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I took on the task — I brandished my sword — I barged in with banners flying and my mighty warriors call….

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But darnit I didn’t stop to think how hard it would be to slay the damn dragon.

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I didn’t account for the battle wounds.

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I didn’t prepare myself for the karmic repercussions flying my way.

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And I. Got. Slapped.

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But baby — I’ve lived a life full flavored and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

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(Ok sure, maybe I’d like it if some of the war had been a little softer…)

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This is not easy work,

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And you do not have to do it alone.

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I promise you my friend — my dragons gave me my most valuable lessons.

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And now….

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I play with the slay.

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If you resent them — you throw away the magic that they are so freely offering you.

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So step two dear beloved —

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Love. Your. Dragons.

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Three Phases I Went Through in Awakening to the Cycle

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Generational trauma — and generational cycles — are no joke my friend.

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Con artists and narcissism have been the legacy of my blood for literal generations — all the way back to the “founding” of this nation.

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But not only am I awake to the very tangible reality of it —

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I’ve healed myself from its lethal woundings — 

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And have ascended to blissful experience of living.

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Do I have everything perfect?

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Hell no.

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There will always be work my friend.

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But I no longer live daily in the muck — I swim leisurely in the crystal clear waters of sublime Knowing and Inner Peace.

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And You. Can. Too. 

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It took me a hot minute to get here. 

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Let me embellish.

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Phase One: Naivety

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A pervading sense of unworthiness. 

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A suffocating and potentially malignant perception that I was unwanted — Inconvenient. Unsavory.

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No idea that the people surrounding me were acting out of their own unhealed, bleeding, and aching wounds.

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That my abusers were only behaving out of what they knew — because they themselves only knew abuse. 

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I operated out of a victim mentality, not realizing that I am the author of my life — and that I had a hand in my own wounding. 

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I had no idea the power that dwelled within me. 

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Phase Two: The Seeker

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And then I became hungry.

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Hungry for something else.

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Hungry for depth.

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Hungry for answers.

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I searched ravenously for these answers outside — only to find that they dwelled within the entire time.

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I dove head first into my self-healing journey and emerged victorious — sheathed with knowledge and lessons (some not-so pretty) that prepared me to heal — and bring healing.

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Phase Three: Wise Woman

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And here we are.

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Using the wealth of my pain to help others.

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To guide others.

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This one can get sticky — because it requires embodiment.

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I could not be where I am now — a conduit —  a conductor — without my Lived Experience.

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And now I know my mission — my message — my work.

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To guide you along the way as you break your generational cycle and step solidly into bliss.

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Your journey will include its own cycles.

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And the sweet part — they only get better and better as you shed layer and layer.

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